The Can’t Sleep Shower Meditation

So here’s the first of my favorite meditations, since I’m in bed and can’t quite manage to turn my mind off enough to sleep. For those of you who, like me, lie down and can’t stop just thinking, this one’s for you!

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The Can’t Sleep Shower Meditation

After you read through and understand these simple instructions, you will go take a warm or hot shower for as long as you like. As you let it relax you, remember to try the visualizations in this meditation.

1. Immerse yourself in the cascading water. Feel the warmth of the shower soothe and relax you.

2. Imagine that the water isn’t just cleansing your physical dirt, but all your emotional dirt as well. All that stress, anger, fear, any and all negativity, feel the water wash that off and out of you. All your worries of the day, all your projects and concerns, let them gently wash away too for the night.

3. Picture in your mind the water in the shower turning dark and even black with the amount of stress, worries, thoughts, concerns it is washing off you.

4. When you feel complete, step out and wrap yourself in a fluffy towel or robe, knowing that all your cares of the night are now rinsing down the tub drain.

Go Right to Sleep!


101 Uses for Coconut Oil

If you have yet to taste the goodness of coconut oil, or use coconut oil as a skin moisturizer, you are missing out on one of the most all-purpose products available to us! Every home needs a big ol’ jar of coconut oil. It’s cheap, amazingly therapeutic and can be used for hundreds of purposes. To get you started, here are 101 of the best uses for Coconut Oil!

1. For cooking, obviously. Coconut Oil has a high smoke point, so its great for stir-frys and anything cooked on the stovetop with high heat.

2. As a light, non-greasy daily moisturizer

3. As a balm on rashes, skin irritations, minor cuts, etc, to help them heal faster.

4. To boost your immune system. Coconut oil has some great anti-viral qualities, thanks to the lauric acid and capric acid contained within it.

5. Mixed with essential oils to dilute for topical use.

6. As a cloth-diaper safe diaper cream – just rub it on baby’s bottom. You’ll never switch back.

7. Coconut oil is excellent for baking, and healthier than a lot of veggie oils.

8. Eye make-up remover. Not kidding; it’s awesome.

9. In your homemade hair conditioning treatments.

10. To remove cradle cap in babies. Rub a little in, let it sit for a few moments, rinse and wipe off with warm washcloth. (Makes babies hair a tiny bit greasy, but worth it to remove the cradle cap.)

11. Added to food/drink daily for increased energy

12. To do oil pulling to heal your teeth and for oral hygiene

13. As a lovely, healthy Massage Oil

14. With a cleaning agent in your homemade laundry detergent

15. To make scented Whipped Body Butter

16. To prevent and heal stretch marks in pregnancy and beyond.

17. Spread on bread, as a butter/margarine alternative

18. As a base for salves and balms for all sorts of purposes

19. Mixed with sugar for a Sugar Scrub to exfoliate and moisturize

20. To polish leather – but only shiny leather as it will leave a shine!

21. With apple cider vinegar and Tea Tree (Melaleuca) Oil to make a natural lice treatment

22. To sooth eczema or psoriasis

23. In healthy, brain boosting snacks for kids and adults

24. Studies show it can help balance insulin levels

25. Nursing women can add a few Tbs to their daily diet to increase milk supply

26. As a base with essential oils for a natural Bug Repellent

27. To season your cast iron skillets

28. By itself or with EOs as a natural deodorant

29. In homemade vapor rub (so easy and so much better)

30. To smooth and heal cracked feet and heels

31. In homemade Re-mineralizing Toothpaste

32. Use instead of cuticle cream to help your nail grow and strengthen

33. Use topically to ease the pain of hemorrhoids

34.  Include in almost all diy lotion recipes

35.  Add to your smoothies for a creamy blend and a brain power boost

36. Make lotion bars

37. Mix with salt and scrub dead skin off your feet

38. Add to homemade soaps for some moisture

39. Dab on bug bites to kill the itch

40. Use regularly to reduce appearance of cellulite

41. Use regularly to diminish varicose veins

42. Replace unhealthy fats with Coconut Oil to lower cholesterol

43. Use as a natural one-ingredient lip balm

43. Apply to chapped, cracked nostrils during cold season after too many tissues

43. Many women use coconut oil topically and internally to kill yeast and help yeast infections

44. Rub in to soothe achy muscles

45. Take as a digestive aid

46. Make an easy diy Dandruff Treatment or Dandruff Shampoo

47. Gargle with to ease sore throats

48. Include in diet for increased metabolism

49. Clear up acne when used regularly in small amounts

50. Used for car sickness – rub into wrists

51. Soothes cracked nipples from breastfeeding

52. After the initial heat is gone, use to speed up healing of sunburns

53. As a coffee creamer, when emulsified into coffee

54. In homemade Mayonnaise without the hydrogenated oils

55. Smooths wrinkles when used regularly

56. Make a facial scrub with coconut oil and baking soda

57. Fades and eliminate age spots

58. Use in place of Lanolin on chaffed nipples from breastfeeding.

59. Cleans Mascara brushes

60. Moisturizes as a bath oil

61. Conditions Eyelashes

62. Prevents sagging skin

63. Tenderizes roast meats

64. A healthy addition to salad oils

65. Polishes metal

66. Replaces WD-40

67. Treats cutting boards

68. Cleans Tubs and Showers

69. Sweetens Teas and Coffee

70. Polishes Silverware

71. Cleans Barbecue

72. Polishes Shoes

73. Removes wax

74. Unstick Stubborn Zippers

75. Removes gum from hair and fabric

76. Removes Sap

77. Make Bath Melts with Coconut Oil

78. Deep Condition Rough Hands with coconut oil and a pair of gloves

79. Prevents Kitty Litter from Sticking to the Tray

80. Promote healing for tattoos

81. Used as a safe personal lubrication, but not with latex.

82. Rub on your legs in the shower, instead of shaving cream, and enjoy a moisturizing and antibacterial shave

83. Grease your baking sheets with coconut oil instead of vegetable oil.

84. Make Coconut Butter.

85. Eliminates fleas and ticks in your pets fur

86. Make a hydrating anti-acne face mask

87. Avoid skin stains while dying your hair by rubbing coconut oil around your ears, neck and hairline.

88. Slather into light hair before going in a pool, to diminish the effects of the chlorine.

89. Combine with sugar for a simple lip exfoliating scrub.

90. Apply a small amount to palms to smooth down and tame fly-away strands

91. Try using melted coconut oil with a dash of sea salt instead of butter on         popcorn, toast and artichokes.

92. Slather it on for relief from chicken pox or shingles.

93. Mix with baking soda for a natural Goo-Gone

94. Mix with Clove Oil for bad tooth pain, until you can get to the dentist

95. Spread it on a nail brush for a anti-fungal nail scrub

96. Removes stickers and sticky labels from glass, plastic, wood…

97. Removes ink marks from vinyl, pleather, etc.

98. Make your own Coconut Beeswax Candles

99. Mix with lemon juice and use as a furniture polish.

100. Mix with avocado for a deep conditioning hair mask.

101. Ingesting Coconut Oil every day is said to really help with allergies.

*I’m done! Go buy yourself a jar of coconut oil and start playing!*

Five Minutes to Meditation

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There’s nothing I advise more as a way of promoting self healing than regular meditation. The mind-body connection is very real and very powerful. Stress kills more than anything else does in our society – weakening our immune system, destroying our will to live to the fullest, opening the door to all sorts of illnesses and imbalances. Meditation is ALWAYS a great idea, no matter who you are, what your belief system may be, or what health issues you face. Anyone can and should meditate.

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That said, there are some pretty common things people say to me when I bring up meditation. Sometimes people think it’s too “out there,” and they just aren’t interested in trying it. More often, though, people HAVE tried it – and they feel like they’ve failed. They decide they can’t focus enough, it’s not for them, they just can’t do it.

You never fail at meditation.

And let’s be honest. Most of us don’t have time to sit in lotus position for an hour each day, working to clear our minds of all thoughts and reach a place of “enlightenment.” (Those who do choose to do this are getting such amazing benefits, and I applaud them! I do try to do this maybe once or twice a week – but I have two kids under 6, a husband, a business, and no illusion that I can “do it all.”)

I’m a big believer of WE DO WHAT WE CAN. And it all helps.

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We put too much pressure on ourselves.  Setting aside 5 minutes for meditation a day can change your entire outlook for that day. 20 is better. An hour would be incredible. But it’s so easy to do too much and end up giving up. Even five minutes – even one minute – it all helps, it’s all beneficial.

I’ll be blogging some of my favorite quick meditations as we go, but for those of you who think you MUST be able to completely clear your mind to benefit from meditate – or those who think it’s just impossible to clear: Start with a few minutes of this one. Do it now. Seriously! If you have ten minutes or one minute, or anywhere in between available right now – do it now.Featured image

I’m going to explain the steps. They’re very simple; read them through and then try it. Tell me you don’t feel at least a little better afterwards.

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1. Step One: Get the Breathing Down

  • Take a deep breath right now. Fill your diagram – your BELLY should move, not your chest.
  • Breath slowly. Hold it for two beats. Then slowly exhale.  Wait two beats, and begin again. It should feel natural.

Got it? Step Two: Choose one of these two images.

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While you’re focusing on doing the breathing, anytime a thought pops up you are going to picture that thought in your mind as an IMAGE or WORD. Then, picture:

       a.) a fluffy cloud floating by and blowing it gently away where you can no                          longer see it or

       b.) Someone walking by with a vaccum, sucking up the words as he                                   walks off-screen.

Pick the one that works for you. Watch the though vanish. Then you just refocus on your breathing.

Got it? I doesn’t matter how many thoughts pop up, keep floating or sucking them away and return to your breathing.

Ready? Go!

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All done? Back with me?

You did it! Your mind feels clear, your blood is oxygenated and your muscles are relaxed. See how easy? Keep it up!

Stay tuned for my favorite easy meditations and tips. It can only do you good!!!

The Essential Oil Revolution

The Essential Oil Revolution.

Ok, so I didn’t get enough sleep. . . I was up all night listening to this:

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Seriously, the cancer research talk was revolutionary and got me so excited! I was totally hooked. It is SO AMAZING the things these True Essential Oils – the ones that are the REAL THING – can do!

It’s free, all week, and each day’s talks are available for 24 hours only (unless you buy them.)

Here’s Todays Line-up:

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I’m going to be listening all day. You should too!

Time to Tell you About ME!

Me? I am an avid sponge of studies and stories, who loves and is interested in alternative anything. I like options. I am an open-minded girl, definitely (ask my friends) but I like to see some proof in the pudding of crazy claims. Still, there’s always that little voice in my head whispering the words of the great childhood poet whose books I grew up reading:

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They are words I believe. They are words I whisper to my children in bed at night, hoping to instill them with the joy and wonder of the world. They are words I remind myself of when times get tough – sort of a childhood creed that’s never faded away.

They are not, however, words that are friends to the holistic community in general. Phrases like OPEN-MINDED, or ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN – these ideals the natural healing community hold so dear are a wonderful way to choose to live. And a terrible way to choose to share healthcare alternatives.

There should be no surprise when we ask the world to act on faith that our words in turn lead to words like SKEPTIC. They conjure up images of New Age-y hippies dabbing on Patchouli oil and frolicking in the woods, hoping the nature spirits will heal them (hey, nothing wrong with these things – I’ve been known for a good earthy frolic myself, and yes, I do feel it is a healing experience!) But that route is far from good for everyone. And I am constantly amazed that other natural-minded people are amazed when the masses just won’t swallow the pill that is Natural Medicine.

Are you a SKEPTIC? Good. You should be.

Eyes wide open, world! Question everything – am I right? I’m a huge proponent of RESEARCH. Yes, I believe in giving things a chance and seeing how they work and drawing your own conclusions. I also stand by the people who believe in faith healing and think that is a great thing – FOR THEM. And maybe even for me, but certainly that won’t work for everyone.

So my question is – why is it so difficult to approach Holistic medicine from a point of Science? Now, I am far from a Science-y expert, and I can only explain so much, but when there’s a question I can’t answer – I look for answers. There are resources for this kind if thing, you know. I don’t think it’s terribly difficult.

YES, holistic sciences are new and the research often isn’t quite there yet. This seems like it has obvious reasoning in the progression of our scientific modern world. The roots of holistic healing are in our past. Let’s go on a little journey to explore how the shift in mentality about these methods happened, shall we?

Once upon a time plants and energy work and all that new-age mumbo jumbo was all we had. We existed just fine using these methods to treat wounds, illnesses, mental imbalances, and all the minor (I use minor in comparison to major disease, not to belittle the quality-of-life issue we face with these things) aches and pains and issues that are part of the human condition. So you can see that holistic healing methods are not NEW AGE. They are ANCIENT AGE.

So we survived with this knowledge passed down from our elders, our medicine men, our shamans, whatever. When people joke to me about me being into voodoo healing or tease me about my Witch medicine cupboard (aka herbs and oils, etc), I like to simply state – “It’s how the Indians did it.” That they survived and were a wise and nature-based people is hard to argue with.

Although, let’s be honest – sometimes they didn’t. Sometimes the extent of their injuries or illness were beyond what we could care for with the resources and knowledge that we had. And so, sometimes, they died.

And so the human race progressed. We discovered Alopathic, Western medicine – and thank God or science or the progression of humankind, whatever you believe in, that we did. Because there are times, lots of times really, that that will save your life. Sometimes that is NEEDED. I’m so thankful to good doctors and people who commit their lives to medical research, because we would certainly be in trouble without that. So… THANK YOU MODERN SCIENCE!

Buuuuuutttt… And its a big but. It’s impossible to deny the problems within the system. There are a lot of problems. Here are just a few, or else I would be here writing for the rest of the week.

We as a people are becoming anti-biotic resistant because we are using them for everything. They are in our soap, our clever little bottles of hand sani in our purses, and we take them way way more often than we should, for things our bodies need to be given a chance to fight off. We even take them when we know they will do no good. “Bronchitis? Oh, well that’s usually caused by an virus so antibiotics probably won’t help… But here’s some antibiotics just in case.” DANGER DANGER DANGER. How many times can we take them, knowing our bodies may develop resistance, before we end up NEEDING them for a deadly infection… And then they don’t work. And let’s not even get into the “Super Bug” theory right now, even though its an important one. (I just don’t have the week free right now. 😉

We as a people are becoming so reliant, even hugely addicted, to all these different medications that are really only made and meant to treat symptoms – not disease. Consider your meds and what they do. They are one-pathway drugs that perform one exact reaction in your body. They bind with nerve pathways in your brain to mask pain (narcotics), or they slow your heartbeat (beta blockers), or they temporarily shut off a center in your brain that’s overactive (sleeping pills, etc.) or whatever. That’s actually REALLY COOL. And it all sounds great, until you realize. . .

This won’t fix you. It won’t heal you. It will (hopefully) allow you to function, and that’s good. But what are you actually saying when you accept these drugs into your body and you do NOTHING ELSE to actually target the disease or disorder or imbalance?

You are saying: Yes, I choose to live with this thing that is wrong in my body.


GASP. I don’t want this, you say. I don’t choose this. There is another way. There are actually tons of options. It requires some digging, some research, some commitment to change the way you live… You, know, the hard stuff. So much easier to take another pill. . . Right?

Until you rely on the pills for a while and start to get – OH NO- SIDE EFFECTS. What is a side effect, really? The definition is simply: “a secondary, typically undesirable effect of a drug or medical treatment.” So why does it happen? Could it be that these drugs mask one symptom in your body while their toxicity builds up and creates other problems?


I AM NOT A DOCTOR. You’ll hear me say this a lot. I cannot diagnose or treat any medical conditions, nor would I want to without the proper training and certifications. I didn’t go to school for all those years, and I’m not about to claim that I know more or better than those who did. I don’t – and I’m very grateful to those who do. However, I am a living, breathing human with my own free-thinking brain, and I like to use it. And I am not afraid to explore and draw my own conclusions on the problems I so clearly see. Nor am I hesitant to believe that we can each make the decision on how we want to treat our own bodies – It is our right.

All of it is an endless, not-so-pretty cycle. Who would choose it if they had another option? Don’t you think maybe – instead of taking drugs for anxiety that actually do really nasty things within your body – you should try out other, less-invasive options first? Trust me, I am NOT downplaying anxiety (I actually suffer from it myself, and it used to be completely crippling. It’s a constant struggle.) I’m just saying – maybe you have anxiety because your life isn’t what you really know it should be, and your body is reacting in turn? I think our bodies have an innate wisdom. I know in my heart that the mind-body connection is real. And so does every doctor. If they didn’t, the words, “How is your stress level?” would never cross a doctors lips. Why would they care, if our bodies were completely different functioning things than our mind and emotions and mood?

BALANCE. It’s all about balance, in my opinion. Look, I’m no anti-medicine holistic snob – I have a bottle of emergency xanax tucked away in my bedroom. (SHOCKER – now you know my secret!) I don’t like to take it, and thankfully, I’ve found a hundred other ways to deal with my anxiety FIRST, BEFORE reaching for a pill that I know deep down will only make things worse in the long run. So it’s really pretty simple in my book – natural, healthy, holistic options first, Western medicine as a last resort. A last resort that I’ve needed less and less as I grow on this journey. And if things ever become really bad, and I come down with something dangerous and life-threatening, I know that Western medicine is waiting to help. To help, where it is actually truly needed – and for everything else, I choose to take control of my own healthcare, happily working alongside a doctor who knows more than I do whenever I have questions.

In this spirit, I will try to provide the science and studies behind the topics I cover here in my new blog as much as I reasonably can without being a medical professional. There will also be MUCH anecdotal evidence, because that happens to be where the bulk of information is – Sadly, the vast extent of this world’s scientific studies are limited to topics that broadcast “THIS IS WHERE THE MONEY IS,” so holistic medicines will always fall by the wayside until that somehow changes. Treating symptoms and keeping people sick = money. Helping people heal so they never need to return for more treatment = well, something completely different: a personal and spiritual abundance that will make you rich in the truest sense – but there is no cash value in it. See how this works? It’s not that the science isn’t there. It’s that the money isn’t. So we are left with this sort of “pseudo science,” as skeptical people like to call it. But in reality, that’s how all research begins, and then it follows the money. Of course many claims are not further explored and researched. What would happen to the medical industry if we suddenly discovered a cure for cancer and the common cold? Monetarily, it could all collapse, oh so easily. This isn’t a conspiracy theory – its our brains making common sense and seeing the issues in our world.

BUT I will do what I can with what we have. When I was first learning, my teacher said something that will always stand out to me. I believe he is right, and that if we holistic educators lived by this rule, we would begin to see real change in our healthcare and in the world. What he said to me, after explaining the scientific basis of the class, was something just like this:

“So, did I just remove all that appealing mystery and romance [of this holistic practice]?  Good. It shouldn’t be there. It doesn’t have a place. All people need is to understand how it works, and then they will allow themselves to be helped.”

It’s time to take the mystery away from simple natural options to heal and support our bodies and minds. I see a world where there is a healthy balance between the two very different viewpoints of our healthcare, where they work in tandem and harmony with one another, and I want to help usher it in. Who’s with me?

Hello Blog-world!

Hello Blog World:

My Name is Kaylene. Nice to meet you. I don’t know really anything about this blogging thing, so this should be interesting. Actually the only thing I DID know was what’s kept me from blogging all this time. I know that you need to like to write (and hopefully be good at it), and that you have to have a passion to blog about.

Ok, well, I LOVE to write – but you’ll see that soon enough. But I never had a subject to be that passionate writing about. I’ve had lots of little passions – because I’m interested in so much. And the few real true passions I had I felt weren’t for me to blog about. But recently, everything in our life and home business has begun to really gel together. And the icing on that jelly cake is my new obsession (passion be damned). So, without further ado, allow me to introduce my brand new blog:

Essentials With Kaylene

The intent here is to blend those little passions I was talking about into one generic theme: Natural Holistic Wellness. It’s definitely all sparked by my new(ish) obsession with doTerra Essential Oils, so expect to see a lot about that here.  I’ve found them to take my already great love of holistics and nature healing to an unbelievably powerful level. The more I use them, the more I see how they supercharge all the natural wellness things we already love, and how alone they are little bottles of miracles. And the more I share them with others, the more I realize I have a lot to say on the topic!

And thus, the blog is born. Let’s dive right in.